Session 4: What You Allow Will Increase

There are two key ideas I want to share about this principle. First: Your life is a result of what you have allowed.

Let me clarify: I am not minimizing or dismissing trauma or abuse inflicted upon you. If you have suffered abuse—whether sexual, physical, emotional, or through abandonment—it is essential to understand that you did not cause these things. A critical part of healing from abuse is acknowledging that it was not your fault. Now, once you reach a place of healing, you must take back your life, emotions, and will. It’s vital to prevent the pain from festering or being repressed. Ask yourself: What do I want to increase in my life? If you don’t want the pain to grow, then you must redirect your focus. The things you stop focusing on will eventually lose their hold over you.

Focusing On Healing

Part of the emotional and spiritual healing process is concentrating on what God calls you to. Sometimes, we continue to dwell on past experiences or relationships that no longer serve us, even though they still affect us. To experience healing, empowerment, and restoration, we must shift our focus from trauma to growth. As we do this, the emotional grip of past hurts will fade. This principle applies to many areas, even financial health. Often, to receive an increase in our lives, we must let something that no longer serves us die off. Someone once asked me, “How do you move from allowing negative issues to increasing the positive?” My first answer was establishing boundaries. You must decide what you will and won’t allow in your life, and these decisions should be aligned with God’s Word. Sometimes, we carry traditions or habits from our upbringing that aren’t biblical or helpful.

Practical Steps To Implement This Principle

1. Establish Boundaries: Define what is acceptable in your life based on God’s Word. 2. Fortify Your Boundaries with Prayer: Proverbs 18:10 says, “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” There is protection in the boundaries God sets for us. 3. Shift Your Focus: Stop dwelling on the negative. What you stop paying attention to will eventually die off. I remember being in a toxic relationship where someone said, “You'll never get away from me!” That was a wake-up call for me. I had to set boundaries, fortify them through prayer, and realize that God thought well of me and wanted me safe. As my perception changed, the grip of that relationship loosened. Now, I can be in that person’s presence without being affected.

Take Action

Evaluate your life. Recognize the things you’ve allowed that hinder your productivity and well-being. Start moving away from them. Create a structured plan:

• Set Boundaries: Be firm about what you will no longer

tolerate.

• Create a Schedule: Manage your time effectively.
• Set Appointments and Deadlines: Prioritize what matters.
• Use Resources: Equip yourself with tools and support to

maintain your boundaries. God is here to help. He desires your safety, timeliness, and excellence as you apply this principle.

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